Thursday, September 18, 2008

Waiting for the punch line

An Associated Press news article recently reported Lynne Spears (mother of Britney Spears and Jamie Lynn Spears) told the "Today" show how she discovered that Jamie Lynn was pregnant. Apparently, Jamie Lynn wrote her mother a note and asked her to read it alone in her bedroom.

Lynne Spears says her first reaction was shock, that she was "waiting for the punch line." This is a very common response, and is the normal start of a grief cycle. Lynne Spears that once she processed the shock for a minute, she started to cry.

"Lynne Spears said she blames herself for what happened. 'As a mother, don't we always blame ourselves? I mean, we're the first one that's gonna take the blame,' she said. 'We never get the credit, but we always question ourselves and say, `What did I do? We had this talk just a month ago.' I mean, I had no idea. I took a lot of the blame. I took all the blame.'"

How did your daughter tell you she was pregnant? If she didn't tell you, how did you discover the pregnancy? Was your first reaction also shock? Do you have the common thoughts that you are to blame, that you are a failure as a parent? When you hear news like this, take time to think before you react or take action. You are not alone in this situation. Get help and resources, take time to research all the options. Talk and pray a lot before you take any action.

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