Forgiveness

Forgiveness does not mean you approve.
Forgiveness does not mean you excuse the behavior.
Forgiveness does not mean you will feel good about the event.
Forgiveness does not mean you don't hold them responsible.
Forgiveness does not mean you no longer feel pain over the event.
Forgiveness does not mean you automatically forget.
Forgiveness does not mean you are no longer incensed.
Forgiveness does not mean you have to pursue a future relationship with the offender.
Forgiveness does not mean you are of no importance.
Forgiveness does not mean God doesn't see the offense as wrong.
Forgiveness does not mean that the offense will not have any consequences.
Forgiveness does not belittle the importance of the offense.

Forgiveness is a choice.
Forgiveness is an act of obedience to God.
Forgiveness is an act of gratitude toward Christ.


You may find it helpful to read the chapters "Forgiving the baby's father", "Forgiving the young man's parents", "Forgiving myself", "Forgiving my daughter", and "Forgiving unkind acquaintances" in our book "How To Survive Your Teen's Pregnancy".